Requesting that spirits leave the room of a sick child so he may find peace to transition from this life to his next path.
Performed by John Chandler, Proprietor of Chandler Spirit Works, June 20, 2009.
You’ve probably heard the expression “six degrees of separation.” It is about the connections that we all share on this earth, the ripples of our lives intersecting with others. To me, this clearing/blessing is about how much more connected we become, how the ripples expand to embrace so many others, when one’s time on earth is short. I performed this clearing for a very young person whose ripples had expanded to touch family, nurses, hospice care, even celebrities such as Trevor Hoffman and Philip Rivers. The ripples from his impending transition eventually came to touch me, and I am so blessed that they did. It led me to new challenges and rewards.
The e-mail came like most, from a name I knew but with a request that was unusual. Not out of the realm of the spirit work I perform, but unexpected from this particular client. My week was already busy, but the call for assistance and the circumstances involved compelled me to find a way to be of service.
The client’s loved one, nicknamed Turtle, had been fighting cancer for over half of his 9 years and was nearing the end of his battle. His family, nurses, and a Hospice support team (of RN’s, social workers, chaplains, nurses aids, LVN’s, and volunteers) all had been doing a wonderful job making him comfortable and giving him support in every way they could. But something had come up that was causing Turtle to be very fearful and the family and the Hospice support team started looking for additional support dealing with spirit energy. It appeared he needed spirit support, and I am very thankful they thought of me.
Turtle talked to a hospice volunteer and told her that he was constantly being visited by spirits around his bed. One in particular was holding a bucket and was reaching toward his chest and trying to take him away. This was terrifying to Turtle and he resorted to hiding under his sheets in fear.
The hospice care Team is trained in many areas to support families such as Turtles; they help support the whole family during the time of transition. After Turtle confided his fear, the hospice volunteer brought him a cross to wear. This gave him comfort, but the spirits still came. The distress was ongoing and troubling to all, most of all to Turtle’s spirit, for he could find no rest.
This was the information relayed to me by email. Normally, to prepare for a clearing/blessing and help things run smoothly, I have clients fill out forms providing background information. The urgency of Turtle’s need for help, and my desire to possibly defuse the situation as quickly as possible, led me to forgo this step, important as it is. Instead, many phone calls were made so I could gather basic information about the household: their belief system, if they had experienced any prior spirit contact, etc.
Typically, by the time I am contacted about spirits or poltergeists, there is no question of whether or not spirit activity is happening. The question is how to communicate with everyone to find a peaceful resolution. You can view some information about this process at http://www.chandlerspiritworks.com/spirit_clearing.htm
A date was set for me to visit Turtle, and as always, I meditated on the clearing/blessing that was coming up. During the drive to his home, I had time to think about this young person. How would I talk to him (or his spirit)? What condition would he be in? Would he be conscious? His courage and will to live had to be so strong to fight such an unforgiving illness such as cancer. I knew I would encounter much sadness and many tears in this home. I could feel that his caring mother, siblings and other who love him were distraught with the same kind of fear Turtle was experiencing. All knew that soon he would not be in his little body anymore to hold and touch as they had throughout his short life.
I also considered the specifics of my task: How many spirits might be there? Why were they making him so fearful? I was glad as always to have my own spirit guides riding along with me, providing support, as my thoughts played over the different scenarios I might face when I walked into Turtle’s room.
I saw several cars parked in the driveway, and many people in the home. The setting was very comfortable with people of all ages in the family room area, which had high wood beam ceilings and a fine view of a canyon out of large windows. The energy in the house felt good; there was over 40 years of family history here. It was a loving, nurturing environment with little ones around and toys in view to be enjoyed at another time. Everyone was very positive in seeing me and supportive of my desire to help in this situation. The nurses, hospice support team, and family members were so caring; I knew Turtle was a very special person to have so much loving support gathered around him.
I talked with Turtle’s brother-in-law first and learned more about the spirit contact and how Turtle had been doing over the past couple days. He was very generous in sharing information about Turtle’s situation and supportive of my potential to relieve Turtle’s fears.
Turtle’s mother, of course, was so tearful, but she showed great strength in walking with me into Turtle’s room. We requested that all others leave us for now to have time alone with Turtle and so that I could read the energy of the room.
I called for my guides to be close by; one to my left side and one at my back, in case any difficulty were to come up fast as I entered the room. (I have found that spirits often know I am on the way and will try to disrupt, delay, or discourage my clearing efforts as they do with others in my line of work.) Upon entering the room, I saw Turtle in his bed resting with his eyes closed. He would remain this way for the time I was with him, but we had contact nonetheless. Making a fast read of the room, for both seen and unseen energy, I heard the noise of a radio or TV. I looked around and realized there was no radio or TV; I was hearing the voices of many spirits.
They were asking me if I could see them, saying “Hey, I am over here,” “Look over here,” “See me standing by the window,” “I am next to the dresser,” “Over here by the curtain in front of the closet.” It was an ongoing chant to get attention, to be seen, to be noticed. They were once like us, but are now in spirit form; they are lost and seek acknowledgement and attention.
I was a little overwhelmed to encounter so much activity in one room, but I wanted to be respectful of the spirits, and also to avoid alarming Turtle or his mother with my actions. I asked all in the room to please be quiet for a few minutes so we all might find peace. I did this in my mind and sent the words out all over the room, making special note of those areas where the attention-seeking was the strongest. The room then became much more manageable; it was quiet but still very energy-filled. It was like the roar at a football game as the pass goes into the end zone, and then the quiet as all wait for the instant replay to confirm the touchdown.
I took out my divining rods and, using one, asked one of my guides to point to all the spirits in the room that were not in a body. The wand moved very slowly and stopped every inch or so to point out a spirit, pausing in some areas where the energy was stronger. I like to use the rods because you give up the power of direction when working with them and allow spirit to help you to see from their perspective.
I let Turtle’s mother know that there were several spirits in the room. I walked over toward a couple of the stronger spirits, and she mentioned that Turtle had pointed out a spirit in the same place, near the curtain by the closet. And the spirit with the bucket at the end of the bed was already known from information supplied by the family.
Often loved ones or close friends who have made their transition before us will come to help our transition when it is time. They help us know there is life after we leave our body, and we are coming home to be with others who gladly await our arrival. We in the flesh often cry when a loved one transitions from us and spirits on the other side cry when we are born because we leave them as well; it is the circle of life. There are tears of joy for reunions on both sides: in birth in the flesh or in transition to the spirit world.
At this time, I decided to talk with all the spirits as a group. I acknowledged that although many of them love Turtle and were here to be helpful, here to support his transition, he was in great fear and needed their support in another way.
I let the spirits know that in order for Turtle to transition, he needed to be at peace. Because of their presence, he was not going to find this state and they were in fact delaying an event that possibly should have already happened. If they would be so kind as to leave his room so he could find peace and calm again in his own spirit, he would be joining those awaiting him soon. I told them they could come back when he is ready to leave and welcome him home.
After relaying this thought, the room cleared a great deal. The energy shifted, but there were spirits left who did not want to leave; they had their own agendas. Feeling their energy and using the rod, I walked toward each remaining spirit and asked them individually why they were tormenting this child, even speaking out loud to some. Five of them were what I call hitchhikers. They hang around when someone is close to transitioning in hope that a medium or psychic like me will show up so they can communicate with the living world. Once again, I explained to these hitchhiker spirits that they were causing him great unrest. It was just not fair that adult spirits would willingly do this to a child. Two of the spirits, after checking their energy, left on their own.
I consider my approach to be negotiation, not “ghost-busting,” but as in any negotiation, I did not play all my cards at once. Two other spirits still wanted contact; they had unresolved issues while in the flesh and wanted some help. I told them I am not really a professional medium; I communicate with spirits only when it is needed in a clearing/blessing. I could understand that they needed support, but even this level of communication is very draining on my body and spirit. Those who specialize in medium work have their techniques to stay strong during these interactions. I was not there to talk to twenty spirits one-on-one. I was there to negotiate for the peace of mind of one nine year old boy.
So, I played my last card; I let two of them know that they could leave with me if they wanted. They could come home with me and stay in our back yard. If the time presents itself we might have a conversation, or they might meet another spirit wandering in our garden and they could help each other. But staying at this location was not going to get them any closer to finding what they were looking for and really I was not the psychic to help them.
So we were down to one… at the end of the bed with the bucket. To my amazement, as I started moving toward his energy, he left. Apparently my guides and I walking over to him, the last spirit in the room, was more than he wanted to deal with. Looking back on this spirit, I realize his energy was not that strong. He was attracted to Turtle because he was young, and I feel he was there hoping to take Turtle’s energy hostage when he transitioned. But the three of us pulling white light energy around us was simply too much for this spirit standing alone. I felt he really moved on, completely off their property. I was not there to create conflict, and I was relieved that this last holdout spirit felt the same way.
I have encountered other spirits who “collect.” One notable clearing I performed was in a home in the Hollywood Hills, where there was a lot of poltergeist activity, including toys being turned on at night on their own, moving down the hallways. A spirit lived in this home that collected lost young spirit energy. He would make them stay with him, assigned to particular rooms, forcing them to be part of his group! Once I came there and found their energy cowering in bathrooms and closets, I told them they could just leave and they did. The collector spirit still wanted the house, so he would not leave to pursue the liberated young spirits.
It was time to communicate with Turtle. His mother, who had been in the room the whole time, introduced me to him and let him know I was there to help. I sat in a chair next to him as he lay in bed. I said hello to him and asked if he could hear me. He nodded his head yes. I let him know that I talked with all the others that were in the room, and they all left and would not be coming back unless he wanted them to. Everyone was out of the room except his mother and me, and if he ever needed help he could just ask for me and I would come right back. I asked him if he understood that all of them were gone out of his room. He nodded his head yes.
At this time, I did a healing to lift his spirits and create calm in his body. This was to help move the fear that may have imprinted his body and spirit so his natural energy could come back and start the process of letting go of the physical form. His little body was very receptive to being in a more balanced state. This is much the same as when you are taking care of a dear loved one who is sick. You might put your hand on their head and give them your love, your energy, and talk to their spirit without words. You know they hear you and know you are making a difference in their healing.
I asked one of my guides to remain there outside his room to remind any other spirits that this area was off limits until his energy was almost fully shifted to the other side. This is a technique some psychics use – requesting guides or guardians to stay in a location to manage the energy field and helps keep it clear.
As we left the room, I thanked Turtle’s mother for her strong support of my actions during the clearing/blessing. I have to say, it was nice to have her in the room because her love for Turtle was so strong it gave me and my guides strength as well. I thanked her for being open to the work that I do with spirit.
I said goodbye to all in the house (those in the flesh); other than the guide guardian, the spirits had moved out. Driving home, I had my second guide riding shotgun and two spirits in the back seat. I felt good about the work we had done. I had never worked with so many spirits at once and I felt that the situation had been resolved. But spirits are like people except they don’t have bodies. Sometimes the outcome is not crystal clear. I was thankful to hear a couple days later that Turtle told the hospice volunteer that all the spirits were gone. And a couple weeks later, I found myself blessed to sit with Turtle’s family at his memorial service. He had transitioned to his other home and we all celebrated his wonderful life. I still feel the ripple of his energy; I remember touching his head and his little body and letting him know it was okay, he could relax now and say goodbye to his mother and all others who loved him so dearly in this life.
